Tellin the friends

With this incredible information we defiantly have to tell people. First of course we wanted to tell our parents. But, since it is going to be "taters" birthday this weekend we thought we would wait until then. However, with the overflow of excitement like Niagara falls, we had to tell someone. We decided to let our friends know, in hopes for positive encouragement. It is a mix of emotions to say the least. I believe that my wife and I are a kind of a unique couple. Because we have friends that vary in age dramatically. Some of our friends are later in years with four or more kids. Others are having their first, and some are in the process. Praying that the L-rd would bless them with little "tator tot" to add to their family. This made it an on edge experience. Our friends up in years, ( not saying OLD) we were worried about their response. In my head I had prepared for the worst. Something like, "OH BOY, THAT'S A HANDFUL." or "YOU BETTER GET A BETTER JOB" or my personal favorite "GLAD THAT ISN' T US."  All these comments seemed to flood my mind moments before we told them.  But to my surprise (not sure why I doubted them) they had only positive things to say. I could tell by their face that they too felt some of the overwhelmed feelings that I felt when I found out. (think if it were truly you with twins)  But overall they we ultimately positive. Encouraging us that it was going to be a great ADVENTURE, but one that we could handle. It felt great to tell someone, to just talk about it. Almost like something we needed to get off our chest and the more people we told the better we felt. With such a great response from our " OLDER" friends we were super (yep I said super) excited about telling our friends who were also excepting another child. Surprisingly we seem to have quite a few friends who are on to their second child. Must have been a LOOONNGGG winter. ( wink, wink)  But how do you tell your friends who also just found out that they're pregnant expecting their second. When they are finding out the sex and are so excited. I felt like a big party pooper, just raining on peoples parade. I mean how does it sound when they are like "we're having a girl and we so excited." and you chime in "WELL WERE HAVING TWINS." It reminds me of a comedian who has a joke about the "ME" people, who always talk about themselves. The comedian says he wishes that he could have been the first person who landed on the moon. Because then he could let the me people talk all about themselves then just totally smash them by saying, "Yea well I landed on the Moon." Thank you so much Brian Regan for your amazing stand up that has truly impacted my life, probably more than I wanted it to. Please don't get the impression that I have selfish friends, quite the opposite. Our close friend are some of the most compassionate and selfless people that I know. But telling them feels like a thunderstorm during an (outside) pool party. We didn't want to be the one uppers, but we were. We seriously never intended on out doing anyone. I mean at our wedding I was nervous but not because I was getting married but because I had to stand in front of all those people. So being in the lime light is not really a badge I like to wear. So this is really a stretch for me and my wife to just steal the attention, but we managed to do it. All of our "expecting" friends were very happy for us. Funny enough they to had a similar facial response as our "not as young friends."  We could tell that the information was overwhelming, as they put themselves in our shoes. But as much as they possibly wanted to they refrained from negativity. Only excitement and encouragement pored from them. Along with some "If you need any help let us know."  Funny coming from people who were about to have their second child which is a dramatic life change. Apparently they took pity on us. I guess when someone tells you that they are having twins it makes a single birth, one child seem less of a big deal. So all you parents who are worried about your single baby birth, " WE ARE HAVING TWINS."  Hopefully that makes you feel better it was not intended to down play the importance of your birth. There I go again sounding Egocentric, I guess that's what having twins does to you. Anyway the last friends that we have to tell are our friends who are praying for the L-rd to bless them with children. My wife and I have actively joined them in this petition to our Father. That He would bless them with a kido that would make their home complete. How do we tell them, they are amazing people and I TRULY believe that the L-rd will bless them, but how crushing this news about our twins will be, or so I thought. We called them to "break" the news to them.  I mean I can't imagine praying diligently that my wife and I would get pregnant then to hear that some friends of ours are having double what we are asking for one of.  Not only that but just a year ago the L-rd blessed us with our first son, so add that to the scenario.  I had feelings of excitement to tell them with complete and total heartache. I would literally do anything to see our friends pregnant, expecting. My heart still aches to think about that, but that is not the reality, like I said, I truly believe any day now they will call us with new that they are expecting and we can all celebrate together. So we called them up and told them of our new development. They are were more excited then I would have imagined. even making jokes about something being in the water. There can not be enough said about these kind of people. True from the L-rd brothers, and sisters.  The L-rd has been so good to my wife and I, but one of our eternal blessings has been the friendships that we have been apart of. And we could never thank them enough for their friendship,and encouragement during this time. We will continue to need them through this " adventure" and hopefully after, (if we still have friends after twins?) Its funny though because my wife and I are the ones who will be raising these precious lives, but what we surround them with and who, will make an equally significant impact on their lives. As I see times changing and our world seeming to go more airy everyday, it puts comfort In my heart to know that  outside my home my children will be tended to with Love, Encouragement, and Hope from THOSE friends and Family.